Posted by Nicki on May 17, 2007 at 09:40:28:

What are you to do when friends drop you because you can't socialize with them? I've found over the last couple of mos. not only with my failed attempt at romantic relationships but now my friendships are going bad.

They're not calling and when they do i'm getting SMS messages making excuses as to why they're not coming to see me. I use to have one very close friend who's now dropped me due to my on going ag. problem.

Is that acceptable or is my behavior too demanding expecting them to go out of their way to see me? I don't know if i should just assume they will come to my place. Should friends accept you, flaws n all?

Nick.

• Re: question about friendships 12:35:57 05/17/2007 NavajoQT (0)

Posted by NavajoQT on May 17, 2007 at 12:35:57:

In Reply to: question about friendships posted by Nicki on May 17, 2007 at 09:40:28:

WEEEELL, friends should stay around, I've always been told and still believe that friends that leave don't matter it's the ones that stick around that count! During your hardest times you will KNOW who your TRUE friends are, the best thing you can do is be your own best friend, but I KNOW I wouldn't want me for a friend!! I am demanding, very posessive, very fickle, but I love ya like crazy! Even sometimes when a "friend" is having a rough time they can't always be around or right next to you, each person needs a sense of space, so maybe they aren't "dropping" you in that sense but saying "you know this is something I don't know how to deal with" and are stepping back. TRUE also is that when you're ready, in your time, you will want to make those steps to go to them. I'm sure the love is still there plus a little confusion on both parts. I've had panic for yrs and it's taken me to learn about it and explain to them and how or what they can do, sometimes they can't do anything and I'm re-assuring them that I'm ok. Like I said it took yrs. I remember when an old classmate told me about the difficulities his baby daughter was having I took it on my own to look it up, so that I would have a better knowledge and he wouldn't have to repeat himself or go into further detail. Sometimes I will ask for them to send me information on what they know and do research on my own. I can't imagine how much of a pain in the ass I was running to a friend, saying over and over, help me, help me, help me(every few mins) Shoe got put on the other foot and I've got friends AND family that have panic and they do exactly what I did and sometimes it seems silly, not that I've forgotten what it was like but I try to see me running up to myself and if I didn't love me so much what would I do. I would be patient, know that you're taking those steps YOU need to take for yourself and trust that everything else will take care of itself. UNTIL then, you've got US!! OH YEAH!! **TACKLE HUGS**